balance. is a very tricky thing. should i show i care at the risk of seeming too concered? should i keep my distance at the risk of seeming uninterested and uncaring? many risks to the power of choice. and the wrong choice.
“So I began to study other men and was comforted to find I was not alone. I tried to come up with a theory that would explain my extreme stoicism in the face of my wife’s suicide. Each explanation became an excuse, because Shyla Fox McCall deserved my tears if anyone on earth ever did. I could feel the tears within me, undiscovered and untouched in their inland sea. Those tears had been with me always. I thought that, at birth, American men are allotted just as many tears as American women. But because we are forbidden to shed them, we die long before women do, with our hearts exploding or our blood pressure rising or our livers eaten away by alcohol because of that lake of grief inside us has no outlet. We, men, die because our faces were not watered enough.”—Beach Music by Pat Conroy
“I hate this town, this state, this night, those people, my past, my present, my future…The only thing I absolutely look forward to is my death. This makes me very rare among human beings, who seem to fear death above all things—but I look upon it as a long, paid vacation where I’ll never have to think again.”—Beach Music by Pat Conroy
“We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”—E. E. Cummings (via isawyoublink-)
Welcome to our society. You will be judged on what you wear, which music you listen to, what you look like, how you act, who you hang around with, and on practically every other personal trait and imperfection about you, and you'll be made fun of for being who you are. Enjoy your stay.